Arranged Marriage --- Chapter 3.... Parents, Tradition & Confusion !

Wasn't this edgy even when I gave my exams and interviews ...Rahul was in an array of thoughts as he drove back home. He wanted to make an honest impression on the girl, the sight of her father dashed all of that ...and all her dad had to say was a stoic " Hi". 

Why is this process of Arranged Marriage highly flawed, all he wanted to create a soothing atmosphere for both so that they can bond well but now he was not sure how the scene at her home would be ...did he commit a mistake by asking the girl out without parents consent !? Will it cause trouble for her? He was genuinely rattled.

Mom had already sounded him off that the girl's parents were quite orthodox and now if they come to know that not only he met the girl secretly but also landed right in front of her dad ... well, hell would break loose...

Thoughts kept swirling in Rahul's mind as he was imagining the chaos at home if Shruti's dad would call up home and update about their meeting today.

A typical south Indian family, he knew his family was also orthodox, maybe not to the extent to which Shruti family was. His mother had warned him of that. Anyways got to face the music! 

As he walked into home albeit apprehensive, mom walked into his room. 

Now ...boom. Rahul was ready for the outburst.

" Shrutis dad had called..he was asking as to when can we go to their house to take this forward "mom informed. It took a while for Rahul to soak in this. Seriously, what a twisted googly. 

Now, what next !?

Day and time decided to visit the house, well now this is happening a bit too fast. Rahul thought.

Finding yourself a partner the arranged marriage way can be a bit scary. Meeting the girl is fine, but to meet her parents seemed extremely daunting, intimidating. 

Rahul had no choice but to put on his best self, dress up formally and be at their house with his parents. Mom was again fussing over the clothes to be worn. Oh not again, why do I have to go thru this yet again to impress her folks ?! Rahul found all this a big facade, why can't I be myself?. Marriages should be decided on the basis of the real people we are and not when we put on a best face and manners just to please others! 

Few icebreaking conversations between both sets of parents and relatives, the topics mainly around the natives, acquaintances, who know who from the family, etc .  And of course, as always is the norm, snacks were served which kept pace with the conversation !!

Rahul was quite zapped as to what significance does these hold. Isn't it about the girl n boy that should matter... He saw a glimpse of  Shruti during the 2 hrs they were at her place. No talks between them at all.  Rahul found this whole thing quite funny.

Her father was quite stern towards Rahul and didn't make any effort to communicate expect a nod.


In the next few days, her pings were also less frequent. Rahul was in a dilemma whether to pursue the chat or just let it be the way it is.  He was kind of sure that she would have been ticked off by her dad, not to ping.

The next set of meetings happened in Rahul's house, with her parents. It seemed more to check out the boy's house, and all the peripherals attached - social status, affluent levels, whether the couple after marriage will be living with the parents, etc.

Life & marriage is all about people isn't it ...the girl n the boy shd be given enough time to understand each other's perspectives! Instead of money, social status, vehicles owned, job, salary, looks, etc drive the decision. Well while all these do matter, but is it anything bigger than the compatibility n comfort level of the boy & girl?

Things were happening at a different pace, probable wedding dates were being checked out by both sets of parents. When Rahul's mom informed him, Rahul found all these too strange for his comfort.

Doesn't haste make waste? 

Can't there  be a bit  of space

It seems like a hurried chase

Based on what is showcased !!

He n Shruti haven't gone ahead in their communication, however, the parents are driving this in a real fast lane. How can one decide marriage in just 2 meetings, this was beyond him. Does this happen to anyone in an Arranged Marriage Or am I being picky? Let me talk to a friend, and also the girl.

" I must talk to Shruti. Does she feel the same way about all this? " 

Rahul texts her about what his thoughts are ..and waits for her reply .....


Stay tuned for the next....


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